Fight Clubs are simple groups of 2-3 men or women who meet weekly to help one another "fight the good fight of the faith" (1 Timothy 6:12).
Violent images are used in the Scriptures to portray the fight for repentance against sin. Amputation (Mt. 5:29-30), murder (Col. 3:5), starvation (Rom. 13:14), and warfare (1 Tim. 6:9-12) are all images used to help us understand the gravity and danger sin poses. As a follower of Christ, you are in the midst of a war he has commanded you to fight (Eph 6:10-20, Rom. 7:22-23, 2 Cor. 10:3-4). A fight against sin, Satan, and the powers of hell; to fight for truth, joy, and life in others. Fight Clubs are one way we get in the fight… together. Fight Clubs are where we fight for the truth, fight our enemies, and fight for others.
Fight Club will help you learn to consume God’s Word like it’s food (Job 23:12, Psalm 34:8, 119:103, John 6:35), to stop isolating and instead use the brothers and sisters God has united you to in Christ (Prov 27:17, Heb. 10:24-25), to be uncomfortably honest with your struggles because you hate sin and love Jesus. Fight Club will push you to allow others into your brokenness because it pushes you to depend on the gospel. It will help you to pray for those who don’t know Jesus and purposefully weave them into your life and mission. It will help you see God’s Spirit transform you and your friends, even when you fail in all of this, because Jesus is enough. He fought, died, and rose in order to destroy the enemies that are killing you, and he’s calling you to join the fight.
What are the rules of Fight Club?
- Fight for truth. Decide together on a Bible reading plan and read the Bible during the week.
- Fight your enemies. Your enemies are the world, the flesh, and the devil. Confess your sin and unbelief to one another. Remind each other and celebrate the grace of the gospel. Pray for one another. See below for questions you can use to spark discussion. It's important to maintain an environment of honesty, confidentiality, and grace. Remember, fight for faith in the gospel. For every look at sin, look 10 times at Christ!
- Fight for others. Pray for 1 or 2 friends who don't follow Jesus. Talk about how you will include these people in your life mission.
HOW DO I START A FIGHT CLUB?
- Pick some people. Fight Clubs are relationally driven, so pick people you want to go deep with. No more than 2-3 people per group, same gender. There is no leader. Establish an agreed upon level of confidentiality. Make a commitment to one another. Fight Clubs of uncommitted people simply don’t promote gospel-centered discipleship. Starting a Fight Club? We'd love to know about it! Drop us a line. Would you like help getting connected into a Fight Club? Let us know!
- Schedule a weekly meeting. One of the first things you should do is sync your calendars for a regular meeting time and place. If you don’t schedule it, you won’t meet regularly. Meet once a week. Allow at least an hour. You could meet for breakfast, lunch, dinner, or drinks. AM or PM, in a home, restaurant, coffee shop – whatever works and can be maintained consistently.
- Fight the good fight. Use the rules of Fight Club to "fight the good fight of the faith" (1 Timothy 6:12).
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU FIGHT
Draw from these lists of questions over time to help you fight your enemies of the world, the flesh, and the devil.
gospel-centered questions to ask
- What are you desiring more than anything else?
- What do you find yourself day dreaming or fantasizing about?
- What lies are you subtly believing that undermine the truth of the gospel?
- Are you astonished with the gospel?
- Where have you made much of yourself and little of God?
- Is technology stealing attention from your family?
- Is work replacing your spouse’s place in your heart?
- Where do your thoughts drift to when you enter a social setting?
- What fears are paralyzing your heart from enjoying God?
- What consumes your thoughts when you have alone time?
QUESTIONS TO GUIDE AN "experience meeting"
- Do you have spiritual assurance of your standing in Christ? How clear and vivid is it?
- How does the Holy Spirit bear witness with your spirit that you are his child? Are you conscious of a growing spiritual light within, revealing more of the purity of the law, the holiness of God, the evil of sin, and the preciousness of the imputed righteousness of Christ?
- Is your love for Christians growing? Do you find yourself having a less censorious, judgmental spirit toward weak Christians, those who fall, or those who are self-deceived? Have you been cold to anyone?
- Is your conscience growing tenderer to convict you of the very first motions of sin in the mind, such as the onset of resentment; worry, pride, or jealousy; an inordinate desire for power, approval, and material comfort; and an over-concern for your reputation? Are you becoming more aware of and convicted about sins of the tongue, such as cutting remarks, rambling without listening, deception and semi-lying, gossip and slander, inappropriate humor, or thoughtless statements?
- Do you see signs of growth in the fruit of the Spirit? Can you give examples in which you responded in a new way — with love, joy, patience, honesty, humility, or self-control — in a situation that a year or two ago you would not have?
- Are you coming to discern false, idolatrous motives for some of the good service you do? Are you seeing that many things you thought you did for God you are actually doing for other reasons? Are you coming to see areas of your life in which you have resisted the Lord’s will?
- Are you seeing new ways to be better stewards of the talents, gifts, relationships, wealth, and other assets that God has given you?
- Are you having any seasons of the sweet delight that the Spirit brings? Are you finding certain promises extremely precious? Are you getting answers to prayers? Are you getting times of refreshing from reading or listening to the Word?
- What do you love? Hate?
- What do you want, desire, crave, lust, and wish for? What desires do you serve and obey?
- What do you seek, aim for, pursue? What are your goals and expectations?
- Where do you bank your hopes?
- What do you fear? What do you not want? What do you tend to worry about?
- What do you feel like doing?
- What do you think you need? What are your "felt needs"?
- What are your plans, agendas, strategies, and intentions designed to accomplish?
- What makes you tick? What sun does your plan- et revolve around? Where do you find your garden of delight? What lights up your world? What fountain of life, hope, and delight do you drink from? What food sustains your life? What really matters to you? What fairy castle do you construct in the clouds? What pipe dreams tantalize or terrify you? Around what do you organize your life? What magnetic north orients your world?
- Where do you find refuge, safety, comfort, escape, pleasure, security?
- What or who do you trust?
- Whose performance matters? On whose shoulders does the well-being of your world rest? Who can make it better, make it work, make it safe, make it successful?
- Who must you please? Whose opinion of you counts? From whom do you desire approval and fear rejection? Whose value system do you measure yourself against? In whose eyes are you living? Whose love and approval do you need?
- Who are your role models? What kind of person do you think you ought to be or want to be?
- On your deathbed, what would sum up your life as worthwhile? What gives your life meaning?
- How do you define and weigh success or failure, right or wrong, desirable or undesirable, in any particular situation?
- What would make you feel rich, secure, prosperous? What must you get to make life sing?
- What would bring you the greatest pleasure, happiness and delight? The greatest pain and misery?
- Whose coming into political power would make everything better?
- Whose victory or success would make your life happy? How do you define victory and success?
- What do you see as your rights? What do you feel entitled to?
- In what situations do you feel pressured or tense? Confident and relaxed? When you are pressured, where do you turn? What do you think about? What are your escapes? What do you escape from?
- What do you want to get out of life? What payoff do you seek out of the things you do? “What do you get out of doing that?”
- What do you pray for?
- What do you think about most often? What preoccupies or obsesses you? In the morning, to what does your mind drift instinctively? What is your “mindset”?
- What do you talk about? What is important to you? What attitudes do you communicate?
- How do you spend your time? What are your priorities?
- What are your characteristic fantasies, either pleasurable or fearful? Daydreams? What do your night dreams revolve around?
- What are the functional beliefs that control how you interpret your life and determine how you act?
- What are your idols or false gods? In what do you place your trust, or set your hopes? What do you turn to or seek? Where do you take refuge? Who is the savior, judge, controller, provider, protector in your world? Who do you serve? What “voice” controls you?
- How do you live for yourself?
- How do you live as a slave of the devil?
- How do you implicitly say, “If only....” (to get what you want, avoid what you don’t want, keep what you have)?
- What instinctively seems and feels right to you? What are your opinions, things you feel are true?
- Where do you find your identity? How do you define who you are?